You are a taller woman, a plus-size girl, or a size 16. As a girl, you had the confidence of Lady Gaga. You have paved your business in the aisle without thinking about the size of your body.
When boys or girls called names, you let them know, loud enough I could add, that they are stupid in pointing out the point with a slug or slap.
Why is your trust broken?
Where did this beautifully daring girl disappear?
She still exists
She is inside.
It's just with all the teasing and all the insults that are thrown at you like stones that she built a wall to protect herself.
How to demolish the walls? One stone at a time.
So, what do you say we wake her up, bring her out of hiding, okay?
Trust begins with your mind
You must identify the lies and crush them with the truth.
The Rhyme of Childhood "sticks and stones can break my bones but the words will never hurt me" is a bald lie.
With the first lie crushed, let's work on the rest.
Louise Hay popularized positive affirmations as a way to rewire inner voices or messages that we repeat. She used an exercise called Mirror Work with her students. It works by standing in front of a mirror, repeating your affirmations aloud. It helps people to heal deeply. Why? Shes says " This makes you immediately aware of where you resist and where you are open and flowing ."
Try to say "I love you (insert your name)" out loud in front of the mirror, slowly, five times, and look directly into your eyes. Not comfortable, right?
Have you found yourself looking elsewhere? tears? mocking?
Crush these lies, remove these stones, little by little, the wall falls.
Be Beautifully Honest
You must be beautiful honestly with yourself.
These words that were thrown at you when you were young were hurting, is not it?
When your father called you "Tubby" thinking that it was cute, he made you cry inside even laughing on the outside.
When your first crush spilled out and spilled it like a cherry on a hot fudge sundae, you were so sick that you thought you were killing yourself.
Forgive these unthinking words. Forgive these intentional flames flames mean hurting your soul. Forgive yourself for believing them.
You Define Beautiful
Beauty, as they say, is in the eye of the beholder. Nobody defines beauty in the same way. And, believe it or not, the definition changes constantly.
What does beauty mean to you? Define it, then describe yourself using these prerequisites.
You do not have to believe it at first.
You did not catch me?
I know this negative self-talk is going on inside your head. Just do the mirror work that I mentioned before and you will start to believe it.
Define beauty for yourself and believe it.
You can feel beautiful and confident as a taller woman. He begins by removing the stones one by one until the wall that your inner child hides behind disappears. First, identify the lies and crush them with the truth. Second, be beautifully honest with yourself. And finally, define what beauty means to you.