"I think I scared him!" Gosh, it's never something you want to say about a man you really love, is not it? Even if you want to believe that he is as busy as he says, your heart tells you that he was missing because you got too strong. What did you do? Have you talked about marriage before even suggesting going out alone? Maybe did you tell him that you liked him before he was ready to hear it? No matter what you did, the end result is what you really have to do now. It's been rare, you panic and the planned future that you had with him disappears into the haze. You have two choices in this situation. You can either succumb to defeat and just let it out of your life forever or you can reinvent yourself in his eyes. The latter looks so much better, is not it? You may have messed up but you definitely have a chance to redeem yourself.
It is much easier to scare a man than most of us realize it. The first steps of a relationship are very different from a male and female perspective. When we, female persuasion, meet a man we love, we tell him that honesty is always the best policy, is not it? This is, but to a certain extent. If you arrive too loud before he is ready to hear it, he will run to the door as fast as his feet will carry him. The same is true if you let the first, second or third date know that you are the type of wedding and you imagine that the babies you are going to love will be adorable. He will panic and the easiest way for a man to deal with relational panic is to run away.
Now that you've been enlightened as to why you may have frightened it, it's time to undo this mistake. First and foremost, give him time. Shoot him with calls, emails or text messages telling him how sorry you were not to cut him. Your behavior will override your words and all it will see is that you are trying harder than ever to force it to want you. You can not allow this to happen.
Once the time is up, as in two or three weeks, call it and stay brief. If he does not answer (and it is very likely that he will not do it), leave a little message saying that you wanted to see how he was going, that you were very busy and that it would be nice to have a coffee at some point. The "at one point" part is crucial because it gives the impression that you are not climbing to see it and that you are not trying desperately to repair the relationship already being collapsed .
Your message will probably be enough to intrigue him by reminding you. Again, do not rush to see him and not profess your desire to spend the rest of your days wrapped in his loving arms. Be calm and tell him you're busy next week, but you'd like to have coffee just after work in a few weeks. Do not feel desperate and control your nervousness so you do not look too dazed to hear his voice. Then finish the call and leave it alone until you meet.
By dealing with this awkward situation in this direct, non-threatening way, you show him that you are not the crazy man running after him as you have used him. at. If you have actually frightened, your new attitude, relaxed and not engaged, will show you that it may have been misreading at first. We can all change and show to the man you are interested in that you are not exactly what he thought you were perhaps the saving grace you were looking for.