Career women under the loving caresses of marriage, maternity as well as a profession, will warm the hulls of her family members by fulfilling the various roles of a vivacious, kind-hearted wife and moving worker. To maintain parity between all, sometimes it is very minute and monotonous. Often, they contemplate, what could be the ideal role for the mother of her children.
The following twenty tips are very useful for becoming an ideal mother.
1. Quality time with children:
Continuously busy schedule, a working woman should extend her quality time to her children. If it's not on a regular basis, sometimes take them to school, attend parent meetings, sit with them while studying, give dance classes, paint contests, swimming club etc. Children should be able to accept the fact that they are not expelled from the company of their mothers. Also buy gifts for them occasionally for which they will be sensitive.
2. Make them self-reliant:
From the beginning of the classes, teach them to do their work for themselves. For example, let them tie the laces of their shoes, wear their clothes themselves, keep the study bag ready and place the lunch box in the bag. As you grow up, teach them to do their work on their own. Self help is the best help and this should be instilled in their minds.
3. Teaching Mannerism:
Teach them to respect the elderly and others. Make them social and observe their behavior in social gatherings. If they are shy, increase their level of trust so that they mix with each other, very freely.
4. Be friendly with them:
Mothers and children are closely linked when it comes to sharing information. Share your thoughts with them, gossip about your co-workers and let them share with you their experience of their teachers and friends. Do not go to other activities while sharing information with your children, because in this case, they will feel neglected and it will distract them instead of enjoying your company.
5. Give importance to their opinions:
We have seen that for any decision, whether strategically important or insignificant, children are not encouraged to take part in decision-making. It's wrong. On the contrary, they should be enormously encouraged to take part in decision-making. From the beginning of their childhood, if this is practiced, then they will be comfortable making decisions in their teenage stages itself and temporarily for the remaining period of life. Whether it is for the purchase of a school bag or to go to the movies, they are involved in the decision making, they will understand their importance and, in the process, they will will do the same thing.
6. Teach them to be confident:
When children fail to achieve a desired performance, try to teach them to do the same well. Whatever the situation, no matter how difficult it may be, if you want, he / she will succeed completely – this self-confidence must be built in his / her mind. Supposedly, if the child fails the exam, the mother has to console, extend support, and say soothing words, so that he / she overcomes the phase of failure. Inform them of Robert Bruce's story and spider at regular intervals to make them understand that failure is the pillar of success.
7. Create a feeling of self-respect for them:
Teach them to focus on this angle. They must explain that they are not inferior to anyone. If someone blames them for no good reason or elsewhere, if some friends have grossly, teach them to protest but not to accept their face value, bowing their heads. Teach them not to do a job by which they will be degraded in their own eyes.
8. In case of need, you must be the guardian:
If necessary, punish them, but not brutally and harshly. Do not utter unpleasant words that can demoralize and discourage them. If they are punished, they should be well aware of the same thing. In this way they will be accredited for the reasons for which they are punished. As a result, they will absolutely avoid the activity for which the punishment is given to them.
9. Listen to them very carefully:
Whenever you share your quality time with them, even if it's only for a short time, focus on each of their words regarding their friends, teachers, what they did at school, in the playground and so on. Never allow yourself to listen to them while watching TV or when you are in the middle of other works. This way, the children will feel that you do not give them any importance and they will lose their enthusiasm to share their thoughts with you.
10. Share problems with them:
Please share your problems with your children, if you are facing an unpleasant situation in your work environment. For example, if you are criticized by your superiors, colleges become jealous of your promotion, excessive work pressure on certain occasions, unforeseen tasks assigned to you, etc., just share with them, not in a narrative way. In this way, they will sympathize with you and you will be an ideal support system for them. When they observe that you share your feelings with them, they will also exchange their thoughts to overcome your loneliness.
11. Rent extensively:
Do not forget to enjoy your children, they do well in extracurricular activities such as sports, dance and quiz competitions, apart from their upbringing. Make them aware that because of their abilities, they behaved well even if the case is insignificant. Praise them in front of strangers. In this way, children will be encouraged and their confidence level will be zoomed. But, the most important thing is to always remember that excessive praise should not be turned to make them too confident. You must be vigilant to encourage them so that they can maintain their level of success to the best of their abilities.
12. Keep a healthy relationship with your spouse:
Do not argue or create a scene in front of your children. This can bring a bad prerequisite. Children love both parents and do not like to see skirmishes. If they find such a type of atmosphere at home, they feel unprotected and become extremely hardened. In case of divergence of opinion, settle amicably without the consent of the children. A healthy and peaceful environment is the most essential factor for their fulfillment.
13. Teach them to handle frustration:
Children can suffer frustrations for many reasons and during this time, they need the affection of mothers more than anything else. This loving role of the mother will facilitate them. During childhood, children can have arguments with their friends, they can be reprimanded by teachers in schools, they may not pass the exam and all this will lead to evaporate the smile of their faces and your role will be to know the reasons for their sullen faces, encourage them and find the solutions for them to become mentally difficult.
14. The express love for children:
"I love you beta", will be the central message to them always be pissed off, even for the pretty problems. Talk to them gently. Kiss them, plant kisses on their foreheads and chicks. Through the Touches of the mothers, the mental link of the children increases. Their mistakes should not be glorified, not be bluntly criticized so that they become unfortunate. On the contrary, by smiling, patting on their shoulders, the mothers must inform them of the reason of their errors, give solutions and in this way, the children will become more confident. While prolonging your affection or love for children, conditions should not be put. It should be unconventional. For example, children should not be told "if you become the first to be tested, I will give you a cycle". This is normally done but in the expression of love, there is no room for stipulation. The children will take it, the opposite. It is explained to them that they are very dear and cherish their mothers.
15. Developing morality:
From childhood, mothers must ensure the development of a sense of morality. They should learn not to touch the body of the elders by their legs, show respect to the elderly, avoid telling lies, not to extend to others, not to take other people's things without their knowledge. If children commit these mistakes that are against good morals, explain to them not to do so, of course, with soothing words. The good morality of the future life will depend on how these qualities are built and developed from the beginning of life.
16. Do not lose patience:
When talking to your children or sharing with them any type of communication, do not lose patience. You must remember that children are in a bad mood than adults. So, if children are not able to understand your communication in the first place, do not reprimand them, but repeat the whole process by slowly explaining to them and giving them a level of confidence that they are unable to understand, they are free to inquire of you. It is more important for their education point of view. Until then, they do not understand any subject; explain them again and again without losing your patience.
17. Become their support system:
When children grow up, your responsibilities do not stop. It's a long life process. Once they become adults, you offer them your support and cooperation. You must make sure that you are there whenever they really need you. You must make sure of their childhood that in any crisis management you are always with them.
18. Time Management for Yourself:
For yours, save time for the hustle and bustle of daily chores of life. You are in the profession, a mother and the top, a woman, but after fulfilling all these roles, you need to set a time limit of 30 to 40 minutes a day just to cool off. This time, it should be used only to read light novels, visit a beauty salon for makeup, invite friends for a tea or simply extend the house.
You can also invest your time in creative work. In this way, you will be rejuvenated and your children will also be inspired to follow your steps.
19. Give them the appropriate and necessary sex education:
From childhood, especially from adolescence, give them appropriate sex education. Do not give vague answers to their questions because they will make them more useful to unnecessary doubts and your unsatisfied answers will make them more and more curious. It has been found that mothers generally avoid answers to their questions about sex education, provide vague answers and simply warp.
Mothers need to extend quality sex education to overcome their curiosity.
20. Mothers should be role model:
Children are copy cats. What they see, they learn and so for all your actions or decisions, please ensure the correct measurements from you. Before preaching, make sure you do not do it. For example, if you are a late riser, you can not tell children the theory of "get up early, get up early." If you want to educate them, "share some things with others," above all, you must share something with your children so that they can learn from you. If someone visits your home for any help, extend them to your children. Seeing this, children will follow your steps and consider you as their model.